Users are turning to AI agents to automate their dating lives

Ben Guez, a content creator and startup founder, has set up an automated script using the open-source AI agent OpenClaw, Claude code, and Instagram trial reels—which function as Instagram video templates. By posting automated content, Guez has generated over one million views and 200 DMs in a few days. According to Guez, the script has left him with a bunch of potential international wives in his direct messages. However, Guez will only answer DMs sent via Canary, his AI language learning app, requiring users to download the app to communicate. Reflecting on the automation, Guez stated, “I’m not sure if everyone’s gonna think it’s good, but I mean, it’s working.”

Other users are adopting AI agents for more administrative dating tasks. Jeff Weisbein, the founder of a tech PR firm, uses OpenClaw to research date locations across different neighborhoods in South Florida, including Fort Lauderdale. Weisbein uses the bot to conduct research and compile a document with links explaining the choices for various dates. While Weisbein draws the line at delegating actual relationship communication to AI, others are more comfortable outsourcing difficult conversations. Cailey, a tech worker, uses Claude to automate break-up messages. She set up an automation that crafts messages stating she no longer wished to see the recipient, based on a few key terms she enters about a date, automatically sending them at random times to avoid the anxiety of deciding when to send them.

The trend comes as security advocates warn about the dangers of giving AI assistants unilateral control over personal accounts. OpenClaw, which went viral this spring, has faced scrutiny over its security implications. Lazer Cohen, the co-founder of NanoClaw, a security-focused alternative to OpenClaw, argues that giving an agent access to personal information and accounts requires human-in-the-loop approval—a requirement for human approval in AI processes. Cohen pointed to reports of OpenClaw creating dating profiles for people without their knowledge or consent and OpenClaw dating coaches spilling to other groups that they’re being used as a dating coach too. Instead of dating, Cohen and his wife use their NanoClaw assistant, Rosie, to manage the schedules of their five children.

Why it matters

The shift toward delegating personal communication to AI agents like OpenClaw highlights a growing tension between efficiency and human authenticity, while raising significant privacy concerns regarding account access.